How do you measure a year?-Part 2

In inches: Sometimes you gotta give a little. I've learned that when I'm in a fight or disagreement with a friend, sometimes it's impossible to get both people on the same page. Sometimes you have to give in a little in order to keep the peace. Friendship is important enough that each person will be sacrificing at some points. Give an inch, and don't allow a friendship to end over something petty.

In miles: Take every opportunity you have to go somewhere. Whether it's through complicated public transportation, free rides, airline miles, free trips, or even a chance to walk through the woods, take it. In the past year I've been lucky enough to spend time in many different places. I spent a month in Israel last winter break, have been to California and Seattle to see relatives, spent time at home in Cleveland, explored New York City, and spent time on an organic farm in Connecticut. A few of those trips were either free or highly subsidized--others I made into an adventure by using cheap transportation and rides. What's important is that each of those trips has changed me in some way. You never know how much going a few miles (or a few thousand!) can affect your outlook on life. And wherever you go, volunteer. It's a much better way to learn about the community than spending your days in stores or on the beach.

In laughter-Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself when you make a mistake or do something awkward. Believe me, I'm one of the most awkward people you'll ever meet-but I choose to laugh at (most of) my awkward moments, and it makes it so much easier to handle. I've learned that choosing to dwell on moments like that in humiliation does nothing but ruin my self-esteem. Laugh instead. Laugh on a daily basis--even multiple times a day!

In strife-I'm not perfect, and neither are my friends. None of us are. There's been a fair amount of strife in my life this past year, and recognizing where it comes from allows for shared understanding and a way to work together to solve problems. Communication and understanding are essential. I believe that many of the world's conflicts are caused by a simple lack of understanding. In one of my classes this semester, we learned that empathy isn't only about empathizing with those in far-off conflicts, but about putting yourself into the shoes of those you might consider your enemies. It's about Jews putting themselves in the place of Palestinians and empathizing with them, and vice versa. It's the same with the Sinhalese and Tamils in Sri Lanka, and everywhere else there is conflict in the world.

In love- Love is the final answer. It's about viewing yourself as interconnected, and being a part of everyone around you. If you do so, you have no choice but to love everyone else! Love those who are being murdered in the Congo, those without homes across America, and those who are right in front of you. There could definitely be a bit more love in the world, but it's also important to be thankful for those around us who love us as well. 

As I reflect back on this past year, I hope that these lessons I've learned can help you as well. Have a beautiful Tuesday!

-Nehama